THE SANDWICH GENERATION
Question: We have hired someone to do household chores and cook for my father, 79. How can we make sure she doesn’t steal things from the house or money?
Answer: When I had to take over caring for my parents, I asked this same question to a friend of mine who owned a home care agency. She said, “lock up jewelry and silver, inventory all collectibles or family keepsakes, and don’t leave a lot of cash around.” I followed this advice and never had a problem. I also made a list of everything valuable.
Your father should have access to his money, if he is mentally capable, or have some cash on hand for his spending. Having to ask a child for money all the time can be emotionally devastating.