I am a mother of three, a wife, and somehow hold a career, too. I was a stay-at-home mama for my first two children, but slowly started to lose my cool; I needed to work! After my third child was born, I re-entered the work world, and couldn’t have been happier! My husband and I were making more money, we had a nanny who we loved take our children to and from school, and our infant was in the best of care at home.
Now our three children are older. Our eldest is a sophomore in High School, our middle child is in eighth grade, and our baby is in 6th grade. Our two older children are adjusted, good students, and social. Our little girl is, well, struggling. She has bouts of anger in school, has a very difficult time making friends, and has NO interest in anything extracurricular. She is very smart, but lacks focus and will go to great lengths to stay home from school.
Prudence, I am worried. My husband is worried, and I can’t help but think that it is my fault for going back to work instead of staying home with her like I did with my other two children. At the time, I thought that I was doing the right thing. Now all I feel is shame.