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It's a shame adoptees feel loyal to thier parents who raise them and yet feel an emptiness that can't be filled without knowing where they came from......by the time I found my birthmother she was dead at age 60, her friends said she never got over the loss of the baby her parents made her give up in 1959. A highly achieving young woman turned to drinking to ease the pain of this and when she married never was able to have another child(common among woman who have given up children to adoption) this could have all been avoided if we could have found each other. I couldn't even begin to search until my parents were gone in fear of hurting the people I loved..If records become more open adoptees and their parents will be more at ease in talking about it. It turns out my mother would have helped me search if I had come to her- but I didn't want to hurt her...It just wasn't something that was done...... Please sign so others won't have to live with the pain I am and my birth mother did all those years. If adopted kids and parents where honest with each other instead of trying to protect each other, you would see scores of adopted parents supporting this issue.